Good resolutions: This is how it can work

Good resolutions: This is how it can work

Good resolutions: So it still works
13.01.2015

Live healthier, avoid stress as much as possible, have more time for the family, learn a new language: Many people plan to do a lot at the turn of the year, but unfortunately the euphoria usually disappears after a few weeks. However, good intentions should not be abandoned. Some tips can help.

Perseverance is crumbling According to a survey, many Germans have decided to live more stress-free for the new year, to spend more time for family and friends and to do more sports. But professional plans were also made. "Everything will be better this year." With such ambitious thoughts, some working people started the new year. However, disillusionment is already spreading and perseverance is crumbling. In a message from the dpa news agency, valuable tips are given on how things will turn out with good intentions.

Go inside and limit yourself to the essentials "Take a sheet of paper and write down what you have planned," explains psychologist Hans-Werner Rückert. Those who have not yet started to implement their good intentions should ask why. "The whole thing was perhaps a spontaneous mood," said Rückert. “In order to actually change things, you often have to change habits.” Employees should ask themselves whether they are ready for it and how important it is to them to achieve a specific goal. The psychology professor Gerhard Stemmler recommends sorting the projects and concentrating on the essentials. It often helps to delete a few of the good resolutions.

Stay on the ground "In 99 percent of cases, it is necessary to revise the project," says career counselor Hanne Bergen. "I want to be more confident" or "I want to advance professionally" are not plans, but wishes. It was important to formulate a concrete goal from this, such as: "I will conduct a salary negotiation with my boss." Stemmler warns that requests such as "I want to become Chancellor of Germany" should be cautious, as the risk of failure is reduced such ambitious goals are great. In order to remain realistic, it is best to listen to the assessments of the partner and friends. A few days ago, the psychologist Sabine Gregersen from the professional association for health service and welfare care (BGW) in Hamburg explained how to do better in 2015 and said that the first success factors are already the right selection and formulation of good intentions. You shouldn't take on too much. "There are people who dupe themselves and believe that they have to work through everything completely," says Rückert. "It would be good for them to plan less."

Achieve quick success You should specify when to start with good intentions. The consultant gives examples: “I'm talking to someone today who has changed professionally in the past two years. I'm looking for a mentor, a role model. ”Or:“ I might have done that in two hours. ”This quickly leads to success. “If you are successful, you also want to do it, then it will be easier to implement it,” says Rückert. With the help of intermediate goals, you can check whether you are on course. Rückert further explains: "If I share my goals, I increase the social pressure." And then friends will suddenly ask how things are with these or those plans.

Stay flexible "No matter what was yesterday, I'll try again!" According to Bergen, this is the way to get to your destination. "If you want to achieve big goals, it is important to keep different ways open and remain flexible." For example, when negotiating a salary with the boss, this could mean not stiffening up on an increase in the monthly payment, but also other improvements such as one annual bonus, bonuses or even permission to work in the home office as a result. Rückert believes that reaching a goal is often enough reward. "With externally specified goals, it is important to consciously reward yourself." According to Bergen, working people could celebrate it with a sauna visit or an evening in the cinema if they have overcome a major hurdle. Stemmler recommends that employees best fix their projects in time so that they can be implemented quickly. This way you avoid saying again and again: "Well, I'll do that tomorrow." Or even in the new year. (ad)

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