Kindness and courtesy are important to many parents. They wish that their children would of course say “Please” and “Thank you”, greet them warmly and apologize to others. But especially when the child is still small, there is often uncertainty about how much "good behavior" they can ask the son or daughter to do. In addition, the question often arises of how best to convey this. In an interview with the news agency "dpa", an expert gives valuable tips.
Small children often cause embarrassing moments
Whether "please", "thank you" or "sorry": Most parents want their children to learn courtesy, respect and good manners. But small children in particular have no understanding of what we commonly call "good behavior". Therefore, they always cause unpleasant situations, e.g. when the neighbor is simply ignored, the granny is insulted or the father's boss is addressed with "you". In such a case, however, parents should be forgiving and not admonish or expose the child to strangers, according to the expert Ulric Ritzer-Sachs.
From the third class onwards, change from “you” to “you”
On the other hand, things such as polite and respectful behavior, decency and consideration by the parents should not be trivialized and dismissed as bourgeois or unnecessary. Rather, care should be taken to ensure that certain manners become normal for the children from a certain age: "From about the third class onwards, for example, children should win the teachers," continues Ritzer-Sachs of the online counseling service provided by the Federal Conference on Educational Counseling. For this purpose, it makes sense if the parents calmly explain to the child that unknown people and teachers are being screened.
If it stays with you, mothers and fathers should wait for a suitable moment and animate their child again, e.g. by say: "This time it didn't work, next time you just try again." In general, it is of course important that the parents always set a good example, because who, for example, In the morning when you bring someone to the daycare center yourself, “Good morning” can hardly ask of your child. "The friendlier and more polite the parents are, the more a child does that," says Ritzer-Sachs. (No)