Knowledge of biological parents helps with personality development
Those who do not know their biological parents usually have a strong need to learn more about their own origins. Often a lot of time and effort is invested in this "root search" - which is sometimes difficult for outsiders to understand. But knowledge of biological origin is an important part of identity development. Because it helps to get to know yourself better and to learn more about your own life.
Strong desire for information about parents
"Who am I?" And "Where do I come from"? This question is usually particularly present in people who do not know their biological parents. Many therefore go in search of their “roots” at some point in order to learn more about their origin. Whether Internet research, discussions with relatives or leafing through old photo albums - everything is often tried to get information. Outsiders can often not understand this deep-seated need, sometimes it even seems a bit spooky if someone is only looking for their parents for weeks.
There is no feeling of inner completeness
The desire to find out where you come from is normal and healthy, because "knowledge of genetic parents is important for identity development," explains Anja Kannegießer in an interview with the news agency "dpa". As the qualified psychologist and chair of the legal psychology section at the Professional Association of German Psychologists explains, this helps answer questions related to your own personality. In addition to the origin, it is also about your own future and questions such as "Where am I going?", "Which is the right way for me?" - because those who do not know their genetic parents often have the impression that they are foreign to themselves be. There is a diffuse gap that feels as if a piece of yourself is missing.
Unsuccessful searches can lead to frustration and depression
According to the expert, the question of origin arises in almost everyone affected in the course of their lives. Often the need for information about the parents would arise in certain phases of development, for example in the phase of puberty or when starting a family yourself. How this is dealt with differs individually and the feeling is not so strong for everyone that he embarks on a search. For others, knowledge of genetic parents does not leave them alone for a lifetime. If the search is unsuccessful in this case, according to the Kannegießer, this could be problematic. Studies have shown that the result is often a deeply felt feeling of frustration and helplessness, which sometimes even leads to depression.
In order to best help those affected, relatives and friends should therefore deal with the topic openly, listen and offer their support. "Experience shows that if the environment completely taboos the subject of birth parents, there is often a great desire to find them," says Kannegießer. (No)