The so-called pat on the butt doesn't improve manners, it actually worsens them
Raising children is not always easy, and there are many different ways of raising children. Scientists have now found that a pat on the butt does not cause your child to develop better manners. Rather the opposite is the case.
In one study, researchers found that corporal punishment by children in no way resulted in the development of better manners in offspring. Such an upbringing does not lead to better behavior, but rather causes children to continue developing bad behaviors, researchers from the University of Texas and the University of Michigan report. The doctors published the results of their current study on the subject in the journal "Journal of Family Psychology".
Negative results in parenting
For their new study, researchers from the University of Texas and the University of Michigan analyzed 75 studies with more than 150,000 children involved. The studies have covered the past 50 years. That's a wide amount of children and the results are incredibly consistent, says lead author Dr. Elizabeth Gershoff. The research shows that there is a correlation between corporal punishment and negative parenting results and that there was absolutely no correlation between physical measures and positive results, adds the doctor. Banging the butt does not lead to immediate better behavior and, in the long run, even worsens children's behavior. In addition, affected children are often aggressive and anti-social in later life, says Dr. Gershoff.
85 percent of children still get beatings these days
Ironically, parents often use beatings on the butt when their children behave aggressively. This makes the children think that it is possible to use spanking to get what you want, the researchers say. Nowadays there are some parents who consider beating as an outdated educational technique. However, corporal punishment is still normal in many households, says Dr. Gershoff. Other research has shown that by the time most children go to secondary school, at least 85 percent have been physically punished. So most children are still being beaten up during their upbringing, emphasizes Dr. The type and amount of punishment may have changed, and nowadays parents rarely use objects such as belts, rods or wooden spoons to discipline their children. But spanking is still an active part of most upbringing, the doctor adds.
Blows in education lead to defiance, aggression, mental and cognitive problems
Some people beat up their children because they were beaten as children themselves. The scientists explain that behavior was passed on from generation to generation, so to speak. Others do it because their religion tells them that such an upbringing is fine. Surely there are different opinions about beatings in education. Thus, the investigation focused on what most Americans would call a beating, and not on potentially abusive behavior, explains Dr. She defined spanking as open hand blows on the buttocks or other extremities. These could be linked to 13 out of 17 negative effects. The effects included defiant reactions to parents, aggression, psychological problems and cognitive difficulties, for example, says Dr. Gershoff.
Children should learn to deal with other people in a positive and productive way
The healthy approach to good parenting is not a single technique. There are a variety of behaviors that parents should take into account, doctors advise. There should generally be a good relationship between children and parents, and parents should reward the child if it does the right thing, explains Dr. Some parents would fear that they are too soft and that their children see them as weaklings if they do not use spanking in their upbringing. But parents can also raise children non-violently and still have high expectations, the researcher continues. Parents don't have to hit their kids to show them who's in charge, the author adds. The goal should be to teach children the difference between right and wrong, the experts explain.
“We should teach them that they should always deal with other people in a positive and productive way. This should become a golden rule that accompanies our children throughout their lives. Parents should be role models, ”the authors emphasize. So behave as you wish your children to behave later. Society is becoming increasingly irritable and violent, so we should try to minimize the negative impact of our culture on our children, the scientists add. (as)